Ooh La La! What we've all been waiting for... the ecstasy of sex! So what is the essence of sex that makes it so alluring? First off, good sex with someone you want to be with, is...FUN! That might sound too simple but think about it...if it were not fun, would you actually do it? If you say yes, you are either not being honest with yourself or you're having sex out of an obligation or something worse. And that's why, when sex becomes work for one partner, when there is no "intrinsic" value for them in sex, sex in the relationship dies off and the relationship itself begins to suffer. Good sex is playful even it's filled with deep passion and feeling. Even in all the seriousness of relationships, sex needs to be playful to sustain the rest. Even at it's most intimate, it's most serious, it's most consuming, if it's not fun, the sex is not going to last. Fun, playfulness and joy are necessities within sex. Now, in order to achieve those necessities, something else needs to be there...the feeling of being comfortable with one's self and with one's partner. And that's where all the problems come up with sex. We hope that the following articles will begin to delve into these areas and allow you to discover what's involved.