Let's say this first... Healthy relationships are HAPPY relationships! This doesn't mean people don't fight or that there isn't conflict in relationships. This doesn't mean that people aren't sometimes unhappy or have serious periods of doubts about the relationship they are in. It also doesn't mean that relationships don't require working at them, a lot of compromise and the necessity of making sometimes very difficult decisions. What it does mean is that there is a basic contentment that underlies the relationship and that each person feels accepted, understood and respected for who they are by the other and that their partner has compassion for them so that in the end the good between them outweighs any bad.